Love is in The Air
| “Love is in The Air.” Wow! It is Valentine’s again, and we feel, smell and see “Love is in The Air.” Some of us are flattered, some are hopeful, some sad, and some distressed. We all fall in love once twice–or many times in our lives. Sometimes it is Puppy Love, which usually happens around teen-age: we find a soul mate, carve his/her name on our arm, keep a keepsake belonging to him or her in our possession all the time. What happens when puppies grow older? Hey, no longer puppies, and hence no puppy love. Khalaas! Some cultures see that as a formative experience and others see it as a binding eternal bond. |
| So if you are from Culture Number 2 and for some natural reason you grew out of puppy love and wanted get away from it, you have fallen out of your commitment and character. Then there is Erotic Love, of course, when there are hormones raging and the goddess Eros is dominant, but that fizzles out as quickly as an open can of soda and love-stricken lovebirds are disappointed to the point of being suicidal because their eternal love did not last but for a few months. |  |
| We also develop relationships around Platonic Love. This is the most interesting kind, as a lot of mature, adult, married people hide behind the label to get from another person what they don’t get from their current partner while living up to the strict moral code of no touching–which means no cheating. |
| There is another kind of love. We have no choice about this one. (That is to accept without questioning, for a moment, that we have a choice about any other kind of love) . | |
| Love for One’s Family. Do we choose to be in love with our family, parents, brothers, sisters, children or we are stuck with it? The final most loved and wanted love is Romantic Love. Romantic love is the most intoxicating experience anyone can have. I believe that to be in love with someone romantically is feeling love from another person. I don’t think it is divine feeling. It is simple math; a person making you feel more loved than you are going to love that person. So if you are madly in love with someone there is a way that that person is making you feel. Well that is my short narration of love. My opinions are my opinions and by virtue of the fact that they are opinions of a mere doctor, they are very subjective. | |
| I dug a little in my acquired knowledge (From few of the wisest and true sources of love and realized that love is really in the air for eternity. |
| As Khalil Jibran said in his book “The Prophet” “Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself. Love possesses not nor would it be possessed; For love is sufficient unto love. |
| When you love you should not say, “God is in my heart,” but rather, I am in the heart of God.” And think not you can direct the course of love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course. Love has no other desire but to fulfils itself.“ Khalil Jibran (1883 to 1931) So in other words if you desire, you really are not in love, Another Greek Philosepher, Epictetus from 55 AD, said “A man that seeks truth and loves it, must be reckoned precious to any human society” Hey this is contrary to popular belief. |
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| People are not loved or desired for their quest for love or truth, but they are wanted for their possession of beauty, wealth, social status and so on and so forth. Hmm, what was that wise Greek Epitectus thinking? |
| This is the 21st century. How things are value sure has changed I know of one such precious person. He is my virtual guru. I read his writings and get inspiration from his beliefs. He believed in change and said himself “Be the change you want to see in this world.” Yes I am talking about Gandhi. If you are not a Hindu or in other words if you are a Christian, Jew, Muslim, or any other religion then following Gandhi and seeing him as a spiritual hero can bring you this close to hell. |  |
| But Gandhi believed in unconditional love and felt love is a force. In his own words, “Love is the subtlest force in the world and the more efficient a force is, the more silent and the more subtle it is.” As Forceful as love may be it surely is blind, as Shakespeare wrote in The Merchant of Venice – Act 2, scene 6 “Love is blind, and lovers cannot see, the pretty follies that themselves commit.” Now imagine an electromagnetic force, which is blind and can totally control you. |
| Well I guess Freud was right when he said “One is very crazy when in love.” Freud further said that “Whoever loves becomes humble. Those who love have, so to speak, pawned a part of their narcissism.” I find this so true. I have always found it astonishing that lovers can go and tell someone that they love them or want their love. This is like bringing your self to a height of self-esteem yet making yourself so vulnerable. I have to confess, I never had the courage to say that to anyone as my heart is not big enough and my Ego is too big. Oh, well, I guess I am a lesser human being than true lovers out there. |
| We are never so defenseless against suffering as when we love, never so forlornly unhappy as when we have lost our love object or its love. (I guess Freud said that.) Theological books have an indication of a real feeling of the presence of love instilled by GOD. “… He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts):…” (Quran 30:21) American Bible; 1 Corinthians:13 Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, (love) is not pompous, it is not inflated, It is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.For love never fails. |
| In Hinduism Kāma is pleasurable, Prema or prem refers to elevated love. Karuna is compassion and mercy, which reduces the suffering of others. Hindus believe that Prema has the ability to change karma; when we love, Karma changes and life becomes love. As for me as Chacha Ghalib said “Ishq nay Ghalib nikamaa ker diaWerna hum bhee admee thay kaam kay” Luv, Dr S |
Categories: The Wisdom of Dr S
Dr S,
hows’ your love life?
I like the various definition (or attributes if you want to call them that) of love as listed by you… but in the end I think to love something or someone is to care for that someone or something selflessly
Love is the ultimate selfish act. Because it is disguised as unselfish some are fooled. But upon a closer examination, you will always find selfish motives in love.
I will quote the great Ayan Rand
“We are often told that love (like the pursuit of truth) is selfless. A “selfless love” would be one unrelated to the lover’s own life, judgment, or happiness; such a thing defies the very nature of love. “A ’selfless,’ ‘disinterested’ love,” writes Ayn Rand, “is a contradiction in terms: it means that one is indifferent to that which one values.” Here again the truth is the opposite of the conventional idea. The egoist is not a man incapable of love; he is the only man capable of it. “To say ‘I love you,’ “as Howard Roark observes, “one must know first how to say the ‘I.’ “
Some people think that they are way too smart. They think their comments are wonders of the world! Dudes don’t be so self-confident.
I’m sure that I’m the only normal person here. Why would I think so? Because no one normal would have written anything like posts below on this kind of website.
We are writing – this is a sign of normality.
I have a different school of thoughts about “Love”, however being agree about different
levels of love but in some cases love last longer then some one can think of it. Love is a
Precious gift from Allah to all of us and it depends how we handle it. I remember one of
that lady who’s picture still remain in my memory, as I fall in love with her and couldn’t get
her as my life partner because she never meant to be mine as Muniza have mentioned that
our future has been determined by Allah and if I can add some up that yes our future has
been written in God’s book (you call it Planner) before we were born and when our
mothers are four months pregnant God’s put the soul in the child physic as it is under
construction and was getting constructed without any soul but as soon as it becomes the
month four … bingo…… the soul gets in. Any way I know that the lady I was in love one
sided … I still love even I got married and I do have loving wife and kids but that does not
change my commitment with life long love to her. What happened of she couldn’t become
mine….so what I am still in love with her, what happened if she got married again… I am
still in love with her, what happened if she is getting famous … so what I am still in love
with her…. and in last what happened if my wife know that I love still her … so what I still
in love with her. As I still have one of her picture stocked in one of the card board box
sitting in some School/College time Student’s activities magazine which was detected by a
person spiritually telling me that you have the picture of that lady sitting in one of those
magazine and his reading was perfect, and when he told me and my friends are sitting
around me then we all start laughing. But I still don’t give up and never will.
So People …learn how to be committed with your character or you can say how to be keep
you character up by keeping the commitments in your life. I am living and living well with
a very special hope that one day I will have to meet her…..and if I do so what….? I still in
love with her.