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It’s a basic fact of life that, unless you’re Tony Robbins, you can’t get along with everyone. Unfortunately, it’s also a fact that throughout your life, you’ll be in situations where you simply have to communicate with some of those people you just can’t stand. This may be an annoying boss, an ingratiating fan, a spineless co-worker, a difficult client, an abrasive in-law, and any number of people with any number of faults.

As much as you might like to run away and hide when you see these people coming, you’ll often need to work with them, sometimes (too) closely, in order to achieve your goals. You don’t always have to be nice – professional and to-the-point will often get the job done just as well – but you do need to make yourself understood clearly or risk letting your dislike translate into inefficient communication that hinders or even undermined entirely whatever projects you’re working on.

Fortunately, all it really takes is patience — with yourself as much as with the other person — and a little discipline to make sure you stay on the same page – and that you don’t get caught up in whatever makes them so hard to get along with in the first place.

1. Listen.

A lot of conflicts are based in misunderstandings, so always make sure you’re getting everything, It can be easy enough to tune someone out when they annoy you; the trick is to use careful questioning to focus the other person on the topic at hand so they give you what you need and avoid straying too far. Poor listening leads to misunderstandings that need clarification – which means more time spent with someone you’d really rather not be around.

2. Repeat everything.

Besides the tendency to tune out people you’d rather avoid, our feelings about another person can color our perception of what they’re saying. To avoid this, repeat back any instructions, questions, or other problems they pose to you to make sure you absolutely understand  what they’re saying. Give them a chance to correct you before you go off half-cocked, sure you know what “that kind of person” wants.

3. Keep your cool.

It’s tempting to want to argue with people who rub you the wrong way, or to lose it and start pointing out their faults. Don’t do that! Unless they’re wrong  about something  that directly and materially affects you, don’t bother – starting a debate or, worse, an argument will only prolong your agony – and neither of you is likely to change your mind. Save the debates for when you’re with friends whose opinions matter to you.

4. Be clear about boundaries.

You don’t have to be friends with everyone. Which means you don’t have to do favors for everyone who asks. If someone’s encroaching on your time, simply tell them, “I’m sure this is important to you but it simply isn’t a priority for me right now. I really need to work on x and not y.” Again, there’s no need to be mean, just redirect the conversations whenever conversation drifts into areas that aren’t relevant and where you know you’ll be annoyed.

5. Fight fire with ice.

The  worst thing you can do with an angry or irrational person is engage him or her. In the heat of aggression, any word or action interpreted as aggressive in response will only trigger more aggression – and most of the item, if someone is upset and railing about it,every word and action will be read as aggression. As hard as it might seem to do, the best thing is to sit quietly and let them spend themselves ranting and raving, and then ask if they’d like to schedule a time to discuss the matter more calmly and return to whatever you were doing. If this sets off another round of yelling, simply wait it out and repeat.

It sucks, but the bottom line is you have nothing to gain by engaging with an irate person in the heat of the moment. And while it may seem that you’re giving up control of the situation – after all, you’re sitting there passively taking it all in, even abuse – most people feel ashamed and contrite after an outburst, especially one in which their target clearly was not responding to or inciting them, which puts you back in charge when there’s actually something you can do about the situation.

6. Close the door.

While you may have to interact with people you don’t care for in any number of situations, remember that your time  is your own and don’t let other people, especially ones you’d rather not interact with, take control of your time.

Communication outside of the narrow band needed to fulfill both of your objectives should be minimized – which often means forcefully limiting such talk. Make it clear when you are unavailable, and make yourself unavailable as often as possible. If you have the power, require that your partner make an appointment, and gently reject any effort to discuss your work or projects outside of that scheduled time. People – even annoying people – tend to respect the time of people who make a clear showing that they take their own time very seriously.

7. You’re valuable. Remember it.

If you’ve found yourself in a position where you are obligated for some reason to spend time with someone you dislike, remember that most likely, they are in the same position – and it’s you they dislike. But you wouldn’t be in that situation if you didn’t provide something of value – whether that’s a work skill or talent, specialized knowledge, even things as abstract as emotional support or solidarity. You have a mission, so to speak, and everything that distracts you from that mission reduces your value.

Remember that, and don’t be afraid to remind others of that. You are valuable, which means they need you as much as you need them. If you’re spending your working time listening to someone on your team going on and on about the sandwich she made the night before for her lunch today, it’s ok to remind her that she’s not making the best use of the value  you bring.

People that are annoying, difficult, selfish, boring, or otherwise a chore to deal with are that way for reasons that have nothing to do with you – it’s not your job to fix, engage with, or indulge those tendencies. Don’t worry abut figuring them out or correcting them, worry instead about how you’re going to manage their  annoyances  without letting it hinder your ability to achieve your own goals. What is your place is to take the control the other person has clearly relinquished, and making sure you get out of the contact what you need. The tips above will help.

And this is the best one

Firstly let me give you some intro what exactly is a portable software. Portable softwares are those softwares in which no installation of the software is required in order to run the software. You just have to download or make a software portable and transfer in into your USB. Now where ever you go this software will go with you. You just have to plugin your UBS in any PC/laptop and run your software. No installation is required at all. In this tutorial i will try my level best to teach you how to create your own portable softwares so you can carry them with you where ever you want.

For this you must have these 2 softwares

1) WinRAR

2) Universal Extractor

For this you must have setup file of software which you want to be portable, i am using a software called TeraCopy

right-click on setup file and click on UniExtract to SubDir

Now you will have a folder made

Go into the folder you will find {app} folder

Select all the files in this folder and right click and click on Add to achieve

Give Archive name you want (and leave out .rar) select Compression method Best , and click on Create SFX achieve

Click on Advanced and click on SFX options, here name Run after extraction with the same name as your original .exe file name is

Click Mode and apply these 3 options

Finally your portable software is done

Now carry copy this TeraCopy file in your USB and use it anywehre you want without installing the software

You can also check other part of our series :  DPIT 01

It is in Pakistani men’s interest to perpetuate certain myths about the male psyche and persona, for it is highly convenient. The lower expectations are, the easier it is for guys to meet them (all in the interests of continuing the species). Still, the time has come to clarify a few things.

Myth one: Pakistani men do not listen

Contrary to popular belief, Pakistani men do listen. We also tend to throw away bits of information that are irrelevant to our more immediate concerns and interests.

It’s not that we don’t want to hear everything women have to say, we do, and we do try to, but after repeated, inane details-driven information collects, our brains categorise certain data as superfluous and deletes it.

Unfortunately, most such data seems to stem from girl talk (usually directed at men). Some brave chaps do argue that a woman’s voice contains a powerful hypnotic force that briefly shuts down a man’s faculty for understanding. If that’s not love, I don’t know what is.

We also only retain as much information as needed. It’s logical and saves space – free market brain storing if you will. A man during his courtship will almost certainly remember that his future wife’s favourite flowers are lilies, but by the eve of their first anniversary forget that she even liked flowers (battle is won, ring is worn…. what’s for dinner?).

Ever wonder why a man will never expect his partner to remember random details about his day? It’s because we think it’s irrelevant. Say what you will, but we are consistent.

Myth two: Pakistani men are calendar averse

Highly untrue! Ask any Pakistani man and he can tell you the exact date and time of the start of the next World Cup as well as his team’s pre-season schedule.

Women tend to take severe issue with men forgetting birthdays, anniversaries, etc. But that’s because women put tremendous store into certain occasions.

Men don’t dream about getting married. For some guys, marriage is the day they stopped being the womanisers they were genetically built to be and became husbands. An anniversary is a reminder of the day a man became a life partner responsible for the happiness of a union. Throw in some family pressure and it’s akin to waking up with a sack of bricks permanently attached to one’s head. It’s a miracle men get married at all. But out of love, we do it anyway. We just don’t need reminders.

Myth three: Pakistani men are actually overgrown boys

Men are not immature, we just have adolescent habits that confuse women. The truth is, once we like something, we are pretty happy to continue doing it (which is why most men only get married once).

Once we develop an interest, we are consistent about adhering to it. One would think that women would appreciate this quality in men. The root of the matter is that men are no good at handling change. We are what we are. You loved us in spite of it once and you will again; just hurry up and get over it.

Myth four: Pakistani men are terrible communicators

The truth is that men are very direct communicators; we don’t deal in nuance and we don’t have the innate desire to recount every detail of our day. Note: Alternate research suggests that men also are highly environmentally conscious and find using scarce oxygen unnecessarily to be an anti-green faux pas. Men say what they mean and are talented at compressing conversational material – deleting the inappropriate bits and concisely explaining themselves.

Maybe it’s actually women who are terrible communicators, or imagine that we want to know the entire story rather than the brief synopsis.

Myth five: Pakistani men don’t have feelings

This myth arises out of the difficulty some men have with emotions: in particular, talking about and sharing feelings. Men are socialised to compress emotions and bury them under as many layers of feces as we can find. Some men choose to drown their feelings, typically in collaboration with their friends Jack D., Johnnie W., Jose C. and Jim B.

Part of being a man means having a sense of stoic control and solely carrying the burden of our emotions, thoughts, and responsibilities, no matter how heavy that may prove to be. It’s what we are taught, it’s what we see, and most importantly, it’s how we function.

Just because men don’t express emotions doesn’t mean we don’t feel. Women can enjoy figure skating competitions, yet not know how to skate. Men express their emotions through their actions, providing for their loved ones. We do as we feel – lip service isn’t a by product we’re comfortable with. If we care, we show it, end of story. “Judge me not by what I say, but as I do.”

In the end…

Women live in some magical alternative universe, where you have to love everything about your mate. When there are certain habits that they don’t appreciate, they add to the store of myths that womankind perpetuates about mankind. It’s unhealthy and causes a lot of heartache. Chill out, ladies, We certainly do.

Article: Dawn.com
Writer: Murtaza Ali Jafri

With day by day increase in traffic this has become an important part of our lives

The story reminds you a bit of films like Khuda Ke Liye and New York, but the difference lies in the Karan Johar style of storytelling – where even petty details are whetted with emotion, tears, dialogues and vivid imagery.

Take my advice and take notes with you while you watch this movie because from the first scene till the last scene you’ll learn lifelong lessons. Quoting one dialogue from the starting of the movie, well not exactly the same words but you’ll understand what I mean “Darna buri baat nhi hai lekin iss baat ka khiyal rahkein ke dar apki kamyabi mei rukawat na ban jiay”.

I have been waiting for this kind of movie from SRK from quite some time. A movie with not just a powerful story it also contains some true emotions which will make you cry, which will make you laugh and which will make you think over certain things again. Plot is quite simple which revolves around Rizwan Khan(Shah Rukh Khan), Mandia(Kajol) and their son Sam. How they were living a happy life and after 9/11 what are the after effects on their lives which changed everything.

Out-standing come back by Kajol filled with emotions, acting and she was rocking in all aspects. Now for the extras; Jimmy Sherjill was decent in this movie, Sonya Jehan (same girl from the Olpers add) gave a simple but touchy impact in the film.

The dialogues as I have mentioned before were so very inspiring and with SRK delivering them they were double in impact. Quoting few more from the movie “Namaz logon aur jageh se nhi neyat se hoti hai” another one saying “Dunya mei sirf do tarah ke insan hote hain, ek woh jo acha kaam karte hain woh ache insan hote hain aur ek woh jo ghalat kaam karte hain woh bure insan hote hain”, how can I forget the main dialogue of the movie “My name is Khan and I am not a terrorist”.

There were few but I loved Tere Naina by Shafqat Amanat Ali and Sajda by Rahat Fateh Ali. Some promising scenes include the starting scene where SRK’s mother tells him the difference between Muslims and Hindus. Then there was this scene where SRK while his way to the president meets a family and explains the reality of Namaz. Another one which inspired me was when SRK enters in a mosque and there he finds suicide bomber brain washing the people but SRK clarifies few things and in the last while meeting the president is also a must see.

All in all a complete package with little bit of comedy, some out-standing performance by every actor and most of all a lesson which must not be ignored that if few people from a particular religion are doing something wrong than don’t conclude that their religion is wrong only say that those people don’t know their religion enough to convey their message.

9) It will be your fault when users make silly errors.

8 )  You will go from goat to hero and back again multiple times within any given day.

7) Certifications won’t always help you become a better technologist, but they can help you land a better job or pay raise.

6) Your non-technical co-workers will use you as personal tech support for their PC’s.

5) Vendors and consultants will take all credit when things work well and will blame you when things go wrong.

4) You’ll spend far more time babysitting old technologies than implementing new ones.

3) Novice IT professionals are often the biggest roadblock to implementing new technologies.

2) Some IT professionals deploy technologies that do more to consolidate their own power than help the business.

1) IT professionals frequently use jargon to confuse nontechnical business manager sand hide the fact that they screwed up.

Just when 3 Idiots was supposed to be the biggest hit ever, Shahrukh Khan’s My Name is Khan has broken world records for a Bollywood film. It has bettered all previous international box office records to record the highest-ever single opening day collections for a Hindi film.

Despite having a restricted release in Maharashtra, Gujarat and parts of Madhya Pradesh on Friday, MNIK’s worldwide box office collections are estimated at Rs. 25 crores for Friday! This is the highest ever collections for a non-holiday Friday in Bollywood history. Trade analysts estimate that it could have easily earned an additional 5-6 crores if it had been released normally across India. With the film playing everywhere across the India from Saturday onwards and given the strong buzz, this number is only expected to grow. It is a matter of time before My Name is Khan becomes a huge box office history, surpassing 3 Idiots as well.

My Name is Khan

3 Idiots

WORLDWIDE RECORDS

UK BOX OFFICE RECORDS

In the UK, MNIK previewed on Thursday with an incredible £123k from 89 sites, 4th in the market place behind Avatar, The Wolfman Previews and Invictus.

In this market, MNIK has broken the record for the biggest GBO preview figure for any Bollywood release. The biggest single day preview figure in the UK was previously KANK with £98k.

The biggest total previews figure was 3 IDIOTS which had 2 days of previews (Wed/Thu) during the Xmas holiday period with £121k. MNIK single day previews are bigger than both days of 3 Idiots put together!

It is expected to be the biggest opening Bollywood film ever in this market by the weekend.

ANZ RECORDS

In Australia, Thursday previews of “MNIK” grossed a very good A$39K (US$34K). The movie is ranked #11 in the market. This is 107% of 3 Idiots Thursday BO.

In New Zealand, opening day took LC$ 13,627 (US$ 9,727). Bollywood films traditionally open on a Friday. The exception is 3 Idiots, against which MNIK has over-performed by 204%.

MIDDLE EAST RECORDS

The film is already 50% higher than any other previous film in Bollywood history with an opening day estimated at USD 300k.

There’s a huge demand for additional prints in the existing chains across the Middle East and the print count is expected to increase to around 60 by next week.

Given the strong buzz, the film also will be released in Egypt, Jordan, Syria, Oman and Lebanon in the coming week.

My Name is Khan

This article was first published on bollywoodtrends.net

Recent increase in popularity of Social Networking websites forced me to create accounts on Facebook and on Twitter. Now with the involvement of millions people sharing different things on Social Networking websites I also started updating my Facebook status regularly and also started Tweeting (when we post something on Twitter it means we are Tweeting, Tweet means news).

So with all this going on my 8 email accounts and 3 accounts on Facebook and Twitter, things got complicated and it was getting difficult for me to update and maintain my each account. I started searching the internet for any solution for this and guess what I hit the jackpot. Few days back I came across software called Digsby. This software was a relief for me and from now on I am more connected with the world. Now with a single click I can update my Facebook status, I can Tweet on to something, I can check my emails and also I can chat with my family all by this by using single software.

It’s so simple just add your email account, your Facebook account and your Twitter account, rest this software will take care of. So if you are a computer addicted person like me this software is for you. Download this software and get connected with the exponential speed of technology.

I remember in these functions whether it’s Vailma, Shaddi, Mehndi or any other event relating to Shaadi one thing for which people always wait is fooood…. Yes!! I am also in the same league. Besides wishing dulha, dulhan the real main purpose of going to shaadi functions has always been you get to meet your relatives you haven’t seen for a long time. But above all you get to taste good food, the charghey, the bar b.q., biryani. Paratha Kabab, qaurmay and haalway..

From the time I started attending these functions I always favored serving food before 10:30 PM or 11:00 PM at most. After 11:00 the stomach starts questioning us “Man i have done some hectic work today and I am not even getting food on proper time”.  After 11PM, when the guests are not served food yet the gossips start with everyone guessing when will we get the food? We look for clues which indicate when food will be served.  We start watching carefully every action of the waiter like how many waiters are there and we use all our senses to find out what are the dishes that waiters are serving?? How much time will it take to serve and if we find some of our favorite dishes in the menu our mouth starts watering more and more. Often you’ll also hear people saying ke “Khana kab mile ga, bhook se bura haal ho rah hai” and you must also have seen people saying “Jaldi kahna ho to hum jain, kal office bhi jana hai, bachon ko school jana hai, aur inn logo ko koi fikr nhi”. Many people have come in Taxi, Rikshaw and if the event ends around 2AM in the morning he will not be pleased to say alvida to you with kind words will he??

Another important aspect is that after 11PM the time on which food is served is directly proportional to how much we will eat. Like if food is served late we will eat more and vice versa. Isn’t this also a hint on how much we can save food and money? Just an advice for the next event hosts, if you want to save food include in the invitation card the time on which food will start serving like add that “Food will be served in between 10PM-11PM”. This will help people to not rush on the food and people will eat according to their appetite and need. So next time if you have any shaadi waadi in your family try to give this suggestion to your relatives and see what happens.

In the end I want to appreciate the government for taking out this powerful step of wrapping out these shaadi waadi functions before 12. In this manner there is no rush of people on food and most importantly no waste of precious time for all, not counting the savings in energy and electricity as well..