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Determinism, Free will and Religion:

January 1st, 2010 Dr. Muniza Shah 10 comments

Determination2When I was twelve years old, I encountered my first adult question. I thought about how God knows everything, and therefore He must know exactly what I am going to do tomorrow and because of that knowledge I must do what God already knows. What that meant to me from then till this day is that I have no choice about my future, my future is determined.

I took my question to our moulvi sahib of the mosque, we have had such discussions before and he was able to answer all my questions to my satisfaction. But this time he was unable to answer my question; instead he reprimanded me for having such thoughts that could have only been placed in my head by “Shaitan”.  I was not disappointed and continued to search for an answer to this paradox, and to my surprise most adults who were knowledgeable in the subject had either not considered this matter or were unable to see a contradiction with free will and responsibility and determinism.

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I Would Believe:

December 17th, 2009 Dr. Muniza Shah 3 comments

self-limiting-beliefAnother draining day at an out patient psychiatric clinic, trying to convince people to stop acting against their own selves. How amazing is the human need for self-destruction. You look in to another person’s eyes as if they are ready to defend themselves. They are ready to jump into an offensive stance, as if they are afraid for if they are not quick enough they will be pushed into a defense.

Working as a Psychiatrist for past 17 years I have seen many faces, thousands of stories. Every story is different from the other only to be similar at a higher level. Only defenseless people are the one who’s minds are struck with true medical illnesses, and those are few and far in between. They don’t make much eye contact, or say much, as if they are ashamed of their problems. It is not clear if they have any understanding of their problems or what they are feeling.

It is easy to find defenseless people in a psychiatry clinic setting. But in life when we meet hundreds of people every day, at home, at work, in the coffee shop in passing through traffic, some of them we talk to, some of them we only see eye to eye and some of them remain in the background, in our peripheral vision. What about these people? They all have stories like ginger roots; they have stories that come out of other stories and the roots that are inter-mingled in these stories.

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Love is in The Air

February 10th, 2008 Dr. Muniza Shah 7 comments
“Love is in The Air.” Wow! It is Valentine’s again, and we feel, smell and see “Love is in The Air.” Some of us are flattered, some are hopeful, some sad, and some distressed. We all fall in love once twice–or many times in our lives. Sometimes it is Puppy Love, which usually happens around teen-age: we find a soul mate, carve his/her name on our arm, keep a keepsake belonging to him or her in our possession all the time. What happens when puppies grow older? Hey, no longer puppies, and hence no puppy love. Khalaas! Some cultures see that as a formative experience and others see it as a binding eternal bond.
So if you are from Culture Number 2 and for some natural reason you grew out of puppy love and wanted get away from it, you have fallen out of your commitment and character. Then there is Erotic Love, of course, when there are hormones raging and the goddess Eros is dominant, but that fizzles out as quickly as an open can of soda and love-stricken lovebirds are disappointed to the point of being suicidal because their eternal love did not last but for a few months. valentine-posters.jpg
We also develop relationships around Platonic Love. This is the most interesting kind, as a lot of mature, adult, married people hide behind the label to get from another person what they don’t get from their current partner while living up to the strict moral code of no touching–which means no cheating.

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